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- - - (The following is a series of letters I wrote to a missionary and then modified for general distribution) - - -
 
 Missionary ltr#1 (My Conversion)
   Let me start by sharing with you a little about my conversion to the church.  I should begin with a decision I made in high school that there was no God. I looked, from a purely logical point of view, at the many diverse belief systems that have in the past existed and do now exist among men and concluded that they couldn't all be correct therefore none of them were correct.  I believed that God, (or the gods), and the belief systems built around them were merely ". . . the effect of a frenzied mind; . . ." seeking for reasons where none existed, for answers to questions that had no logical answer.  I became a staunch atheist.  After going through a few years of traumatic experiences at home I ended up joining the Marine Corps at age 17 to avoid being sent to the local reform school.  In boot camp, which was in San Diego , CA, in June (hot!), on Sundays we had 2 options;  we could remain in the company area polishing our boots, cleaning up the area, sweltering in the 110° sun or we could spend 3 to 4 hours attending church in an air conditioned chapel there on the base.  I have always been a practical person.  Since there was nothing to religion there was no harm in sitting in a cool place for a few hours every Sunday.
   I signed up as a Presbyterian, since their service was one of the longest and was held in the afternoon, when it was the hottest outside.  About the 3rd week they had a group of youth singers that came in and poured out there hearts through song. They sung of their love and devotion to the Savior and of his sacrifice for us on the cross.  I felt the Spirit for the first time.  I went up on the alter call and accepted the Lord as my personal Savior.  I was converted to the Lord, I was born again.   (At least according to the sermon that followed.)  I began trying to read the bible and learn more.  I actually paid attention in the church meetings each week.  My beliefs about the differing teachings from church to church, even within the BACs (Born Again Christians) kept me from attaching myself to any one church or system of beliefs other than my belief in the Savior.  I sought for answers in the bible.
   I went "inactive" fairly quickly, military life being what it is.  Being transferred from place to place, being ridiculed for an interest in religion, I quickly learned to keep quiet and put my studies on the back burner.  I knew in my heart that Jesus Christ was a real being, the Son of God and that the bible was his word, but I had no idea where to go from there.  I was transferred to various training and duty stations and eventually completed my tour of duty and was honorably discharged.  I still had a testimony of Jesus Christ but no direction in my life.  (In hindsight I look with wonder on the course of my life that lead me through each step, at the right time and with just the right preparation.  I had never heard of the Mormons, and that was important because I hadn't formed any opinions about them.  Once I make up my mind about something, only an act of God can shake me lose, and sometimes I have to be shaken more than once.)
   When I got out of the service I went to Ontario, OR where my father and his half of the family live.  I ran into a girl I had known for years and we began talking about religion.  She had gone to live with an aunt in Salt Lake City and had almost been converted to Mormonism until she heard that Joseph Smith had seen God.  She recalled having read that no man could see God and live.  I also recalled the having read that, although, curiously, neither of us could find it.  (Ex 33:20, 1 Jn 4:12) Together we embarked upon a search to find that scripture so we could prove, by the bible that the Mormon beliefs weren1t true.  I really didn't know anything more about the Mormon beliefs.  At this same time I was also trying to find a piece of property I could buy as I had saved up several thousand dollars while in the service and I wanted a little piece of earth to call my own.  I went from one Real Estate office to the next.  (There were only 2 in Ontario at the time and they were almost right next door to one another.)  In the second one I told the broker what I was looking for and he taught me a little about land and informed me gently that what I wanted was not in the price range I had hoped to find.
   He then gently steered the conversation over to religion and I quickly found out he was a Mormon.  I immediately pointed out his beliefs couldn't be true because the scriptures say that no man can see God and live.  He brought his scriptures out of his desk and pointed out about a half a dozen examples of men who had seen God and lived, including a group of several hundred of the Elders of Israel at one time.  I was shaken.  I said something to the effect that he clearly had a greater familiarity with the scriptures and I would need to do some study to rebut his argument.  He said he was too busy with work to carry on an ongoing debate but that if I could come by his home that evening he would introduce me to a couple of young men who could give me more information about the Mormon beliefs, answer all my questions and spend the time I desired debating the issue.
   Boy he really saw me coming.  I showed up that evening at the appointed time and received the first discussion.  They gave me a BOM and challenged me to read it. Then they made their fatal error.  They promised me that if I would read it and ask God with a sincere desire to know the truth that God would reveal the truth of it to me so that I would have no doubt.  I figured I had them over a barrel.  All I had to do was do everything they asked me to do and if I didn't get the results, then it was all a bunch of hooey and I could dismiss it.  I read the BOM, the brochures, and devoured all eight discussions in just 2 1/2 weeks.  Everything they told me made perfect sense.  It all fit together with a level of perfection that screamed of divine guidance.  I began to want it to be true.  But God appearing to man and setting up his church here on the earth, in person, was so earth shatteringly important that I had to be absolutely sure.  I wasn't going to just accept warm feelings and little promptings.  I had to KNOW!
   My poor missionaries.  First they thought they had THEE golden contact of their missions.  I wanted them there every day to teach me more.  I read everything they asked me to read and more.  I did every assignment they gave me and went beyond.  I knew all the answers to the questions raised in the discussions.  I had eliminated the things in my life that were contrary to the gospel and was attending church. I prayed frequently and fervently.  But I wasn't getting the answer I wanted.  They gave me a special Priesthood blessing that I would receive an answer and after a week, still no answer.  (I say no answer, but in retrospect I realize I was getting answers every time I asked, it just wasn't the earth shaking, absolutely final, end all answer I felt I had to have.)  They had about given up.  I truly believe I was shaking their faith because everything was going right except the most important part.  Then, in my studies I learned more about fasting.  I decided I had to know so I was going to fast until I got an answer.  I sequestered myself in my little apartment and did nothing but study, ponder and pray for 3 days.  In the early evening of the third day I got the answer I was seeking (and a little bit of chastisement for being so stubborn.)  I arose from my knees and called the missionaries to tell them I wanted to be baptised immediately.
   Kar-thump, crash, bangity.  After his companion brought him around he picked up the receiver and asked me what I had said to him.    I repeated my request and heard the phone hit the floor again.  (I must admit I am embellishing slightly here, but you get the general idea.)
   I have had innumerable additional special experiences since then confirming the truth and reality of the experience I had that July evening, many years ago, some of which I hope to share with you in future letters.  But that experience was so profound that I believe that it could have carried me through my whole life without any further experiences.  I believe that the greater the desire to know, the greater the testimony will be when we seek for it.
   I have a firm and absolute testimony that God lives, that He hears and answers our prayers and that the gospel of Jesus Christ is true.  And I share this with you in His holy name, even Jesus Christ.  Amen.
 Missionary ltr #2:  (Prayer)
My own conversion to the gospel gave me a strong testimony of the basic tenets of the church.  In addition to the testimony I have that the church is true I also have a powerful testimony regarding the prayer and the active role the Lord plays in our lives.
 Let me take you back a few years to when my first born son, Gerry, was three.  He began throwing up for no apparent reason.  He walked with a list to one side.  We took him to doctors and hospitals and got no answers.  Then a pediatric specialist identified a fast growing brain tumor.  Gerry was scheduled for surgery that night.  There were many complications resulting from the removal of a tumor that the doctor described as being the size of a softball.  Radiation and chemo-therapy followed, with a very small chance of recover forecast.
 When he first went into the hospital he would scream and cry and beg them not to stick any more needles in him, not to hurt him.  But the nurses and doctors had to.  Not being able to stand the pain or to have any effect on his environment he withdrew and became catatonic.  The experience was devastating for my ex-wife and I as you can well imagine.  He spent almost 3 months in intensive care following the initial surgery.  The trauma to his surviving brain was enormous.  I was forced to resign from my job because I couldn't commit to work.  Gerry would stabilize, I would go back to work and my ex-wife would call me mid shift and tell me his heart had stopped again and I better get down there right away.
 Finally after a very trying night of Gerrys heart stopping and massive efforts being made to revive him, after they had him stabilized again I sought for a private place in an unused part of the hospital and knelt in prayer.  I had had the impression, as Gerry was being given a blessing by the Bishop earlier that day that Gerrys time on earth was over and our fervent prayers for him to recover were hindering his return home to his Heavenly Father.  But we weren't emotionally ready to let him go.  So I asked my Father if he would heal Gerry and let him come home for a while.  I asked to be able to see my son playing, happy and normal again so that we could remember the happy Gerry instead of the little bundle of love that had been tortured into a catatonic state.  I asked that when he went that it would be quickly and with virtually no pain.
 From that day he began to mend.  There was more medical treatments but in another month he was able to come home.  It took another month at home before he began to even respond.  As time progressed he got healthier and began to come out of the shell into which he had gone.  After three months he was a happy, healthy, (for the most part) normal kid again.  He was still undergoing powerful chemotherapy that was given in courses.  For one week he would go in once a day and receive the treatment.  For the next week he was without immune response and a little sick, then he had two more weeks to recover before the next course began.  During one of the courses, while his immune response was repressed he developed a little sniffle at bed time.  By morning it was a serious case of pneumonia and we rushed him to the hospital.  The doctors came out to us in a couple of hours later to inform us that he had died of an infection to the lungs that spread too rapidly for them to counteract.
 Heavenly Father graciously had granted exactly what I had asked for.  I continue to see Heavenly Fathers hand in my life on a daily basis.  I have learned that He listens and provides a way for us to receive all that we ask of Him that is for our good.
 Another example I feel demonstrates just how small a thing can reach his attention and result in miraculous action occurred when I was involved in a ward service project to do fall clean up of the yards of some elderly people in our community.  I was with a group of about 10 other ward members, mostly youth, raking and bagging leaves and trimming bushes and bagging up the debris.  I was the only one there with a watch on so everyone kept asking me what time it was.  As the time for us to go back to the chapel for goodies approached and the work wasn't getting done we all worked furiously to get all the debris bagged and loaded on the truck that was to haul it to the dump.
 When we arrived at the church and I went in to wash up I realized I had lost my watch.  I drove back to the yard and went over it very thoroughly for almost an hour, missing out on the snacks that had been prepared.  That watch had been the most accurate and reliable watch I had ever owned and it meant a lot to me.  I went home saddened by the loss.  I prayed that night for it's return.  I knew it was impossible, but I really liked that watch.  I was in a bathrobe, with big pockets and when I arose I reached into one of the pockets to take out a handkerchief, and there, in my pocket, was my missing watch.
 As I review mentally the things I have sought for in prayer and compare them to the things that have come into my life I find that even the things I sought that perhaps were not the wisest things to ask for I have received.  Things don't always come instantly, like the watch, but if I really want them, and fervently pray for them, they come to pass.
 In many of the answers to prayer I have seen how carefully the Lord prepared the way for the thing to come to pass, right when I asked for it.  For instance a while back I was out of work and the bills were piling up fast.  I began to get depressed at my inability to come up with enough money fast enough.  In desperation I prayed in earnest for relief.  The next day in the mail came a check for several thousand dollars, an unanticipated early disbursement from my late grandmothers estate.  He knew before hand what I needed and when I was going to call on him for help.  (It is amazing how He does this stuff.)  I also remember asking for help in building my network marketing business.  I was deliberately avoiding contacting members of the church because I had a negative experience in the past with a ward member in some business dealings that left me in a very precarious position financially.  Yet when I prayed for people to come to me that needed and wanted what I had to offer, it was members of the church that started asking questions and getting interested.  I often see members of the church, frequently unknowingly, fulfilling an answer to someones prayer.
 One more quick account of an experience I had several years ago.  At the time I was living in a in the country outside of a small town 20 miles the other side of Rainier and working in SW Portland.  When I got off work it was a 2 hour drive to my house.  I was zooming for home and dinner when I observed 2 young men on the other side of the road hitch hiking to Portland, the opposite way I was going.  The spirit came strongly to me to go back, pick them up and take them where ever they needed to go.  I responded and did as I had been prompted.  The road was fairly deserted and so they knew I had turned around to pick them up.  I asked them where they needed to go and they indicated that they were planning to attend a religious seminar at a bible college in SE Portland.  The meeting was going to start in about 30 minutes and they knew they weren't going to make it.  I asked them if they had been praying for a ride.  They looked at each other in amazement and one of them responded that they had gotten up off their knees from doing so just before I came into view.  I told them about the prompting I had received and proceeded to get them to their destination with time to spare.  I talked with them about the Lord, the church and and the power of prayer all the way there.  I may never know the outcome of that experience, but it strongly re-enforced my faith in the Lord, in the power of prayer and in His guiding hand in our lives.
 I know from these and many, many other experiences that God listens to us when we pray and prepares the way for us to receive the things we desire as we strive to serve him faithfully and keep his commandments.
 Missionary ltr #3:  (Promptings)
I'd like to share with you in this letter some of my experiences with the promptings of the Spirit.  I have, since joining the church, sought to better understand and learn to consistently recognize the promptings of the Spirit.  And then to heed them.  It has been a slow process for me because I have in the past tended to focus on the intellectual more and feelings less.  Despite this, the Lord has used many means to teach and guide me in my life. (I have found that often I study a concept and hear it in lessons in church meetings but fail to grasp it at the heart level until I see it in something outside the church.  Sometimes I've had to bump my head on a principle pretty hard before it got through.)
 For me promptings fall into 4 general categories:
1. Immediate answer to/during prayer in the 3 forms; Burning, Stupor, Internal voice or image.  The burning feeling of the spirit is probably the most common and the most talked about prompting of the Spirit.  I have learned that this feeling is always accompanied by a feeling of peace and love.  In marital arts study I learned to consciously stimulate the production of endorphines (powerful pain killers produced in the brain when we are injured.  This produces a physical feeling nearly identical to the feeling of burning.  The accompanying feelings of peace and love are what I now use to determine the source of the feeling.  Burning is felt anytime truth is being conveyed from one person to another by the Spirit.  I believe that it is a "heart to heart" connection made by the Spirit.  When asking if a course of action I have chosen is correct I almost always get burning or stupor.
   (Actually there is a another answer, sort of.  Its nothing, not a stupor of thought, but nothing.  I have learned from experience that when I get the "nothing" response, it is a matter of no consequence, I.e. it doesn't matter if I do or don't do what I'm asking for help in deciding.)
 The stupor is really a fascinating form of inspiration.  It took me a long time to let go of thoughts and allow them to be forgotten and wiped from my mind as part of the inspiration process.  Early in my church experiences I would ask if I had made the right decision, forget what I had been praying about and then spend the next several minutes dragging it out of my memory so I could ask again.
2. Answer to prayers at unexpected moments which can take too many forms to delineate.  Probably the most common for me is to be reading or pondering and receive a a flash of insight that answers some challenge I have been praying about.  I have come to find that whatever I ask for I get, usually in pretty short order.  I have learned to recognize a particular prompting I get frequently to go shopping at the local thrift stores.  Every time I have heeded that prompting I have found some item that I had been wanting, but couldn't fit in the current budget, at a price that could only come as a result of paying ones tithing.  I have had powerful spiritual experiences that I didn't understand until some time later when some little thing in the course of living would open the floodgates of understanding.  These feelings sometime are accompanied by visualizations.  A good example occurred concerning the drain in my bathroom sink which was non-functional when I moved in.  According to the owner a snake had been run down it to no avail.  I had tried plunging with no success.  It would drain, but at a rate of a quart a day.  I had given up on it, figuring it would get fixed when we replumbed the apartment.  One morning, out of the blue I had a little flash of inspiration in which I visualized a small clot of hair in the gooseneck.  Heeding the prompting I removed the gooseneck and found that in the pipe just beyond the gooseneck, which ran parallel to the floor several inches, there was a buildup of what appeared to be toothpaste filling over 3/4s of that little section of the drain pipe.  It took two minutes to clear out and now the drain runs free.  I never would have thought to remove the gooseneck if it hadn't been for that flash.  I have had many similar flashes that solved problems that I believed were not solvable at the time.
 Many times answers to prayers come through the actions of others.  Even animals can be instruments in the hands of the Lord to answer prayer.  I was once able to get into visit an inactive family because their dog, normally very unfriendly, took an immediate liking to me which impressed  the man that I was a good person, as he believed his dog could tell instinctively what kind of person you were.
3. Unexpected promptings/warnings/protection which almost always falls into 3 categories; Voice, Physical, Strong feelings of foreboding, anxiety or danger.  The voice, whether internal or audible, almost always repeated because we don't listen the first time.  I have had many experiences when I have felt physical or nearly physical contact.  I watched my 14 month old son fall toward the corner of a table and at the moment before he would have gotten a serious dent in his face his head was pushed aside so that he missed the table entirely.  I have felt a hand push my head down and moments later saw that if I had remained upright a board sticking out of the bed of a pickup, passing me at 70mph, would have clobbered me, probably fatally.  I have also learned to recognize a tense feeling in the pit of my stomach to be a warning that I'm about to do something really stupid.  As a parent I have felt a sense of foreboding about activities my kids were involved in and when not heeded they got hurt or had bad experiences.  I learned real quick to put my foot down when I have had those feelings.
4. Insight/inspiration/revelation which almost always comes while reading, pondering or praying.  This is the area I most enjoy.  I have heard it said that all the scriptures we have today came as a result of a prophet reading, pondering and praying about the scriptures they had available to them.  I have sought, as the Lord commands us, for revelation.  (James 1:5, D&C 82:4, TG:Seek)  This can be a dream, a vision, a visit from an angel or simple understanding that is on that "heart to heart" conduit from the Spirit.
 Heeding the promptings we receive can be as great a challenge to the spiritual novice as recognizing them is.  I believe that many experiences we have are given to us so we can learn to recognize and heed the promptings of the Spirit.  In 2 Nephi 28:30 and more especially in D&C 98:11-14 the Lord implies that we receive more as we give heed to that which we have already received.  In D&C 89:18-19 The Lord states clearly that if we keep His sayings we will find hidden treasures of knowledge.  I believe that as we more perfectly follow the promptings of the Spirit, we will receive more and greater promptings.
 A lesson of life I have learned that parallels this idea is that when we master a truth or concept we get to move on to the next lesson.  Unfortunately for most of us when we have good experiences we tend to celebrate.  When we have negative experiences we tend to ponder.  I would like to suggest getting in the habit of pondering all experiences, both good and negative.  The quicker we learn the lessons the Lord has for us the better off we will be.
 Missionary ltr #4 (Gratitude)
 I often hear of missionaries having served in areas where they worked, prayed, cried and pleaded with the Lord and then nothing happened.  I also hear of them later having great success in the area where they are currently working.  Could this later success be the cumulative response to many, many entreaties?  Life has taught me that Gods delays are not Gods denials.  Sometimes we struggle and plead for help and when it doesn't come that instant we forget about having asked and then fail to recognize the answer when it arrives.  (I'm sure this doesn't apply to you.)
 Recall, if you will, how much Job suffered before he was blessed with that which he desired.  And I quote; Job 42:12 &16 "So the Lord blessed the latter end of Job more than his beginning:  . . .After this Job lived an hundred and forty years, and saw his sons, and his sons, sons, even four generations." Surely you have also read D&C 58:4.
 I have found that one of the things that brings the greatest abundance of blessings into my life is to be profoundly grateful for those things which I have already received.  To me it is an exercise of faith to accept all that is clearly good, or even might be good as coming from my Father.  Every trial I have experienced has profited me either in blessings or learning (which is a blessing, really).  I have come to accept that as long as I strive with a sincere heart to do the best I am able, the Lord takes care of the rest.
 An example of this can be found in the following experience:  As Michelle, my oldest daughter, advanced ahead of her classmates to the point that she was academically ready for college at 14 I had to come up with a way to pay for it.  I have struggled financially most my life.  Coming up with an extra $4000-$5000 a year for her to attend PCC was an enormous hurtle, especially since the most I had earned in a year at that point was $8,000.  Since she was only 14 at the time she was not even considered for any of the scholarships we could ferret out.
 I had faithfully paid my tithing, and was doing everything I knew how to do so I felt confident asking the Lord for help.  I came up with the idea of contacting friends and family members and asking them if they would sponsor her for just one credit a quarter ($29, at the time).  We put together a letter asking for help which was sent to several people I believed were in a financial position to help if they were so inclined and within a couple of weeks Michelle had enough to take her first two classes (5 credits worth).  Most of those who chose to support her sent more than one credit's worth and over the next 3 years, as she earned her Associates Degree, she accumulated enough of an excess to help her with her first semester at BYU.  (She started there in the fall of '94, as a Junior at the ripe old age of 17!)  Needless to say I'm a very proud father.  She's planning her mission after she receives her Bachelors Degree.
 The point here is that our Father in Heaven provides from the abundance of the earth and from the bounty of the hearts of others for those things which we desire, if we serve Him with all our hearts and do the best we can with what we have.
 The principle of gratitude is one I have spent considerable time pondering.  I was fortunate to realize fairly early in life that others received as much joy from helping and giving as I did and that in order for a person to be able to give there had to be someone to receive.  I have many, many times received help from others that was not needed or even really welcome which I have always tried to graciously accept and show (and feel) gratitude for.  The Savior demonstrated on several occasions acceptance of a gift or act of service with deep respect for the heartfelt purpose of the giver, regardless of the real need of the gift.  (Matthew 26:6-13,  Luke 7:36-50, Mark 12:41-44.)
 Gratitude, like most of the principles of the gospel, applies as much to our interactions with each other as it does in our relationship with our Heavenly Father.  Those who display sincere appreciation for the things we do tend to receive more and greater things while those who treat our service and gifts with disdain tend to not receive them any more.
 Missionary ltr #5 (Love)
 This time I'd like to share a few thoughts on what I have come to believe is the single most critical factor in our personal spiritual growth.  (The following is the gospel according to Mark {Sr.})
 Have you ever wondered how Jesus, his Apostles, the prophets and faithful priesthood holders are able to instantly heal people and perform miracles that defy the laws of nature as we understand them?
 I believe that all matter has intelligence and spirit.  I believe that matter voluntarily conforms to the laws God has organized for this earth by choice and that matter can defy what we consider to be physical laws if it chooses to do so.  I believe that it is out of love for Him that the elements conform both to his laws and requests.  Accepting these premises I asked myself why would all this matter love Him so much as to obey him so perfectly?  What must I do to become like Him?
 To me the answer comes back resoundingly I must learn to love others, indeed love everything, as He does.  In 1 Jn 4:19 it puts it very plainly that "We love him, because He first loved us."  1st John says a lot about this love.  In 1 Jn 2:5 we read "But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: . . ."  This lends greater depth to Jn 14:15/D&C 42:29.  Tie these together with Mor 7:47-48 and you have begun to scratch the surface of the importance of developing a perfect love.
 I often sit and try to comprehend what it would be like just to love everyone.  I mean truly love them enough to sacrifice my life for them, regardless of what they did or if they even cared.  To go beyond that to loving every thing with that same love is beyond my capacity to grasp at present.  (I get head pains just trying to fathom our Fathers love for us.)  Yet it is clear that without developing or receiving the gift of this love we are nothing.
 I suspect that missionary work is an opportunity to experience that love on a level we almost cannot experience anywhere else in life.  Knowing that He loves us and experiencing that love first hand is the deepest motivating factor in the world.  It is what drives the elements themselves to do His will and it is what draws us to Him and gives us the desire to keep His commandments.  If all truth can be tied together in a single concept, that concept would have to be love.
 Parenthood also gives us an opportunity to experience a great level of love and, for me, has been a great source of understanding my relationship with my Father in Heaven and how he feels about me.  Although I cannot claim to have very loving parents here on earth I have found in my experiences with my own children feelings of love, acceptance, concern and joy that I believe are cloudy foreshadowings of the feelings of love we will experience in the Celestial realms
 I don't have an exact figure, but I believe that love is the single most repeated theme in the scriptures.  It is linked to every commandment.  Think about the first and great commandment and the second, which is like unto the first.  On these two laws hang ALL the law and the prophets.
 But how are we to develop this great love?  I believe that it is partially a gift from God that is received as a result of keeping His commandments and asking for the gift, (Jn 14:15, D&C 50:29, Mor 7:48) and partially something we must strive to develop within ourselves, (Matthew 5:44, 46, Romans 12:10, Ephesians 4:2, Ephesians 5:25, 28, 1 Peter 3:8, etc. . .)  I also believe that charity, once received, it carries with it great responsibility, which is why so few receive it fully in this life.  I also believe that in its fullness it is bestowed on us in person from the Savior and is the final step in our purification.  (3 Ne 19:15-30)

Missionary ltr #6 (Personal Integrity)

I'd like to ask you in this letter to consider in your heart the following question: "Do I keep my covenants?"
Personal Integrity is at the core of what we are here on earth to master. It will ultimately be one of the most fundamental deciding factors in our eternal destination. Our personal struggles to obtain salvation revolve around that single issue. Our reciept of heavenly blessings is predicated upon it. And our successes or failures in this world are linked to it as well.
What does it mean to have personal integrity? I think the best description I have ever heard is: "If I say I will do it, I will do it, just as I have said that I would." [*2] How many times in the scriptures has the Lord reiterated that whatever he says will surely come to pass? [*3] And are we not to be perfect even as he is perfect? Is this not perhaps how perfection and righteousness is demonstrated? By the Lord, or any person keeping his word? [*2, *4] And commiting only to those things which are for good.
At Baptism we entered into a covenant, we promised to keep the commandments of God. God agrees to wash away our sins from us if we keep our promise. And He always keeps his promises. If the Lord says it, it will be done. [*6-9]
There are many, many covenants we make during our lives. Each one is important. There are those which are bigger: Baptism, Temple, marriage and worldly commitments such as borrowing money, buying a house, going into business. How well we perform each of those promises reflects on our personal integrity.
There are also those which may seem trivial. "I'll take care of that today." Have you ever said this casually and then not taken care of it as promised? If your personal integrity is to be perfect you must learn to do as you say you will, every time and to not make commitments you cannot keep, not to aswage someone who is pressing you, nor in casual conversation.
There are questions we should all ask ourselves, every day, even minute to minute such as; "Want have I committed to and have not yet performed?". It should trouble you deeply if you have not fulfilled your word. [*11] Follow that closely with the question; "What can I do right now, today, to fulfill all the things I have said that I would.?"
And when asked to do something by anyone to consider carefully before your response: "Am I willing to absolutely commit to doing what I am being asked to do?" And then respond to the request accordingly.
I believe that those who keep their word most perfectly are those who become leaders, for everyone wants to follow someone who does what they say they will do. Here is the basis of all real power. Even that of our Heavenly Father.
The only power we truly have in our lives is the choices we make; how we use our time and that use is divided into two categories: time spent keeping covenants and time spent otherwise. As we engage in activities that are in line with what we have promised, our life is filled with order and security. As we spend time in other activities we bring to our lives chaos and uncertainty.
Lack of personal integrity has severe consequences. In this world we lose the trust and respect of those around us. Our credit flounders and is lost. Our lives fall ever increasingly out of control. Spiritually the Lord has decreed that just as blessings are linked to our faithfulness, [*1] so are the cursings he has decreed linked to a persons lack of integrity. [*5]
And as we are faithful in fulfilling all of our covenants the Lord promises us the blessings that we all desire at the deepest level. Again I reiterate: The Lord keeps all of his promises. The Lord is faithful in all he says. Let us therefore be faithful in all we say we will do.

[References]
*1 - Nehemiah 9:7-8
7 Thou [art] the LORD the God, who didst choose Abram, and broughtest him forth out of Ur of the Chaldees, and gavest him the name of Abraham;
8 And foundest his heart faithful before thee, and madest a covenant with him to give the land of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, and the Perizzites, and the Jebusites, and the Girgashites, to give [it, I say], to his seed, and hast performed thy words; for thou [art] righteous:

*2 - Jeremiah 35:13 - 14
13 Thus saith the LORD of hosts, the God of Israel; Go and tell the men of Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem, Will ye not receive instruction to hearken to my words? saith the LORD.
14 The words of Jonadab the son of Rechab, that he commanded his sons not to drink wine, are performed; for unto this day they drink none, but obey their father's commandment: notwithstanding I have spoken unto you, rising early and speaking; but ye hearkened not unto me.

*3 - Ezekiel 37:13 - 14
13 And ye shall know that I [am] the LORD, when I have opened your graves, O my people, and brought you up out of your graves,
14 And shall put my spirit in you, and ye shall live, and I shall place you in your own land: then shall ye know that I the LORD have spoken [it], and performed [it], saith the LORD.

*4 - 2 Chronicles 6:10
10 The LORD therefore hath performed his word that he hath spoken: for I am risen up in the room of David my father, and am set on the throne of Israel, as the LORD promised, and have built the house for the name of the LORD God of Israel.

*5 - Jeremiah 34:17-20
17 Therefore thus saith the LORD; Ye have not hearkened unto me, in proclaiming liberty, every one to his brother, and every man to his neighbour: behold, I proclaim a liberty for you, saith the LORD, to the sword, to the pestilence, and to the famine; and I will make you to be removed into all the kingdoms of the earth.
18 And I will give the men that have transgressed my covenant, which have not performed the words of the covenant which they had made before me, when they cut the calf in twain, and passed between the parts thereof,
19 The princes of Judah, and the princes of Jerusalem, the eunuchs, and the priests, and all the people of the land, which passed between the parts of the calf;
20 I will even give them into the hand of their enemies, and into the hand of them that seek their life: and their dead bodies shall be for meat unto the fowls of the heaven, and to the beasts of the earth.

*6 - Ezekiel 17:24
24 And all the trees of the field shall know that I the LORD have brought down the high tree, have exalted the low tree, have dried up the green tree, and have made the dry tree to flourish: I the LORD have spoken and have done [it].

*7 - Ezekiel 22:14
14 Can thine heart endure, or can thine hands be strong, in the days that I shall deal with thee? I the LORD have spoken [it], and will do [it].

*8 - Ezekiel 24:14
14 I the LORD have spoken [it]: it shall come to pass, and I will do [it]; I will not go back, neither will I spare, neither will I repent; according to thy ways, and according to thy doings, shall they judge thee, saith the Lord GOD.

*9 - D&C 1:38
38 What I the Lord have spoken, I have spoken, and I excuse not myself; and though the heavens and the earth pass away, my word shall not pass away, but shall all be fulfilled, whether by mine own voice or by the voice of my servants, it is the same.

*10 - 1 Samuel 15:22
22 And Samuel said, Hath the LORD [as great] delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey [is] better than sacrifice, [and] to hearken than the fat of rams.

*11 - Esther 6:1-3
1 ¶ On that night could not the king sleep, and he commanded to bring the book of records of the chronicles; and they were read before the king.
2 And it was found written, that Mordecai had told of Bigthana and Teresh, two of the king's chamberlains, the keepers of the door, who sought to lay hand on the king Ahasuerus.
3 And the king said, What honour and dignity hath been done to Mordecai for this? Then said the king's servants that ministered unto him, There is nothing done for him.

 Missionary ltr #7 (Keeping the Sabbath day holy)

Since joining the church every time in my life when I have struggled to break free of the influences of the world, D&C 59:9-14 comes to my mind and putting it's principle into practice has brought me the freedom I was seeking. Throughout the scriptures we can find commandments linked to promised blessings, and the Lord always keeps his promises. The blessings attached to keeping the Sabbath day holy, in conjunction with keeping the commandments, are profound. And it is important enough that the Lord has outlined in detail the steps involved and the blessings that will come in numerous places in scripture. In the Ten Commandments it is one of two commandments to which the Lord devoted multiple verses [*2], going into detail explaining why it is significant and how it should be observed.
I'd like to share a bit about both the how and why details of Sabbath observance and the blessings that are promised when we do.
At the heart of Sabbath observance for each of us is to abandon our devotions to worldly cares and concerns, to rest from them, and to pay all our devotions to the most High God.[*1 (verse 10)]. On this day we are to turn our whole focus towards God.
Church attendance is appointed, to offer up your sacrifices and oblations. Meal preparation with an eye single to the glory of God is the only laborious thing we ought to be doing in most situations. We are to use that time also for confessing our mistakes to those of our brothers and sisters with whom we need to make amends. A time for family connection with our Father and our brothers and sisters. The Lord requires us to enjoin all our family members, and those who are in our employ and dwelling within our household to also observe the Sabbath.[ *2, verse 10] The Sabbath is for a sign between us and the Lord that we always remember Him and keep His commandments. [*3, verse 16]. Through proper Sabbath observance we demonstrate to God and to the world that we know God lives and that we are committed to following Him. It was designed to remind us of the pattern the Lord used to create the earth and all that is in it for our benefit. [*2, verse 11] and has been given to us as a regular means for showing our appreciation for the wondrous gift life is.
Are there exceptions as to how we observe the Sabbath? I would have to say yes and no. There are some who must work on this day; in the emergency service industry, medical and elder care, utilities, some public transportation and other necessary services, and there are exceptional circumstances that occur in the lives of all that necessitate doing things not normally proper for Sabbath observation, such as an unexpected serious illness or injury or experiencing a severe weather disturbance where safety concerns override more meditative Sabbath observance.
These things excepted I should ad that nowhere does the Lord excuse us from Sabbath observance. In a case where one has to work regularly on Sunday it would be fitting, I believe, to set aside another day of the week to personally observe the Sabbath. Though Sunday is the day He has set aside and we should strive diligently to observe it then, I believe it's observance, when our circumstances do not allow it on Sunday, is still of great import to our spiritual and physical well being.
There are also many whom the Lord asks specific service on the Sabbath. Almost anyone with a calling in the church who takes their calling seriously knows that they will be laboring for the Lord on the Sabbath and that certainly is as the Lord will. In my callings over the years I have found that if I did all the preparations I was able to on days other than the Sabbath, those things I had to do on the Sabbath uplifted me rather than weighing upon my mind and heart.
When we keep the Sabbath day holy many wonderful, positive things happen. One of the easiest to notice is that on Monday we are refreshed, in a way that I do not believe we could otherwise be, to go back into the work-a day world and battle with the many issues and responsibilities that fill our lives. This renewed state of mind, body and spirit allows us to be happier, more positive in our outlook and to have the strength to deal more effectively with crises that arise in our life's course. A level of inner peace and calm permeates our being from resting and casting off the cares that the world heaps on us. Our batteries are recharged.
One will also soon observe that the promised blessings unfold for those honoring the Sabbath with all their heart. In the D&C we are promised the fullness of the earth, that the beasts of the field and the fowls of the air, and that which climbeth upon the trees and walketh upon the earth; and the herb, and the good things which come of the earth, whether for food or for raiment, or for houses, or for barns, or for orchards, or for gardens, or for vineyards; all things which come of the earth, in the season thereof, that are made for the benefit and the use of man, both to please the eye and to gladden the heart; for food and for raiment, for taste and for smell, to strengthen the body and to enliven the soul; all will be ours. [*1, verses 16-19] That is a very expansive promise and those who observe the Sabbath can testify that it is given as promised.
A complete review of Leviticus 26 [*4 & *5] tells us in great detail all the blessings in this life linked to Sabbath observance as a part of honoring our Father in Heaven. And of all the cursings attendant of those who do not honor the Sabbath once they receive and understand it

[References]
*1 - D&C 59:
5 Wherefore, I give unto them a commandment, saying thus: Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, with all thy might, mind, and strength; and in the name of Jesus Christ thou shalt serve him.
6 Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. Thou shalt not steal; neither commit adultery, nor kill, nor do anything like unto it.
7 Thou shalt thank the Lord thy God in all things.
8 Thou shalt offer a sacrifice unto the Lord thy God in righteousness, even that of a broken heart and a contrite spirit.
9 And that thou mayest more fully keep thyself unspotted from the world, thou shalt go to the house of prayer and offer up thy sacraments upon my holy day;
10 For verily this is a day appointed unto you to rest from your labors, and to pay thy devotions unto the Most High;
11 Nevertheless thy vows shall be offered up in righteousness on all days and at all times;
12 But remember that on this, the Lord's day, thou shalt offer thine oblations and thy sacraments unto the Most High, confessing thy sins unto thy brethren, and before the Lord.
13 And on this day thou shalt do none other thing, only let thy food be prepared with singleness of heart that thy fasting may be perfect, or, in other words, that thy joy may be full.
14 Verily, this is fasting and prayer, or in other words, rejoicing and prayer.
15 And inasmuch as ye do these things with thanksgiving, with cheerful hearts and countenances, not with much laughter, for this is sin, but with a glad heart and a cheerful countenance--
16 Verily I say, that inasmuch as ye do this, the fullness of the earth is yours, the beasts of the field and the fowls of the air, and that which climbeth upon the trees and walketh upon the earth;
17 Yea, and the herb, and the good things which come of the earth, whether for food or for raiment, or for houses, or for barns, or for orchards, or for gardens, or for vineyards;
18 Yea, all things which come of the earth, in the season thereof, are made for the benefit and the use of man, both to please the eye and to gladden the heart;
19 Yea, for food and for raiment, for taste and for smell, to strengthen the body and to enliven the soul.
20 And it pleaseth God that he hath given all these things unto man; for unto this end were they made to be used, with judgment, not to excess, neither by extortion.
21 And in nothing doth man offend God, or against none is his wrath kindled, save those who confess not his hand in all things, and obey not his commandments.

*2 - Exodus 20:
8 Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
9 Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work:
10 But the seventh day [is] the Sabbath of the LORD thy God: [in it] thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that [is] within thy gates:
11 For [in] six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them [is], and rested the seventh day: wherefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day, and hallowed it.

*3 - Exodus 31:
12 ¶ And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying,
13 Speak thou also unto the children of Israel, saying, Verily my Sabbaths ye shall keep: for it [is] a sign between me and you throughout your generations; that [ye] may know that I [am] the LORD that doth sanctify you.
14 Ye shall keep the Sabbath therefore; for it [is] holy unto you: every one that defileth it shall surely be put to death: for whosoever doeth [any] work therein, that soul shall be cut off from among his people.
15 Six days may work be done; but in the seventh [is] the Sabbath of rest, holy to the LORD: whosoever doeth [any] work in the Sabbath day, he shall surely be put to death.
16 Wherefore the children of Israel shall keep the Sabbath, to observe the Sabbath throughout their generations, [for] a perpetual covenant.
17 It [is] a sign between me and the children of Israel for ever: for [in] six days the LORD made heaven and earth, and on the seventh day he rested, and was refreshed.

*4 - Leviticus 26: 1-13
1 ¶ Ye shall make you no idols nor graven image, neither rear you up a standing image, neither shall ye set up [any] image of stone in your land, to bow down unto it: for I [am] the LORD your God.
2 Ye shall keep my Sabbaths, and reverence my sanctuary: I [am] the LORD.
3 If ye walk in my statutes, and keep my commandments, and do them;
4 Then I will give you rain in due season, and the land shall yield her increase, and the trees of the field shall yield their fruit.
5 And your threshing shall reach unto the vintage, and the vintage shall reach unto the sowing time: and ye shall eat your bread to the full, and dwell in your land safely.
6 And I will give peace in the land, and ye shall lie down, and none shall make [you] afraid: and I will rid evil beasts out of the land, neither shall the sword go through your land.
7 And ye shall chase your enemies, and they shall fall before you by the sword.
8 And five of you shall chase an hundred, and an hundred of you shall put ten thousand to flight: and your enemies shall fall before you by the sword.
9 For I will have respect unto you, and make you fruitful, and multiply you, and establish my covenant with you.
10 And ye shall eat old store, and bring forth the old because of the new.
11 And I will set my tabernacle among you: and my soul shall not abhor you.
12 And I will walk among you, and will be your God, and ye shall be my people.
13 I [am] the LORD your God, which brought you forth out of the land of Egypt, that ye should not be their bondmen; and I have broken the bands of your yoke, and made you go upright.

*5 - Leviticus 26: 14-39
14 ¶ But if ye will not hearken unto me, and will not do all these commandments;
15 And if ye shall despise my statutes, or if your soul abhor my judgments, so that ye will not do all my commandments, [but] that ye break my covenant:
16 I also will do this unto you; I will even appoint over you terror, consumption, and the burning ague, that shall consume the eyes, and cause sorrow of heart: and ye shall sow your seed in vain, for your enemies shall eat it.
17 And I will set my face against you, and ye shall be slain before your enemies: they that hate you shall reign over you; and ye shall flee when none pursueth you.
18 And if ye will not yet for all this hearken unto me, then I will punish you seven times more for your sins.
19 And I will break the pride of your power; and I will make your heaven as iron, and your earth as brass:
20 And your strength shall be spent in vain: for your land shall not yield her increase, neither shall the trees of the land yield their fruits.
21 And if ye walk contrary unto me, and will not hearken unto me; I will bring seven times more plagues upon you according to your sins.
22 I will also send wild beasts among you, which shall rob you of your children, and destroy your cattle, and make you few in number; and your [high] ways shall be desolate.
23 And if ye will not be reformed by me by these things, but will walk contrary unto me;
24 Then will I also walk contrary unto you, and will punish you yet seven times for your sins.
25 And I will bring a sword upon you, that shall avenge the quarrel of [my] covenant: and when ye are gathered together within your cities, I will send the pestilence among you; and ye shall be delivered into the hand of the enemy.
26 [And] when I have broken the staff of your bread, ten women shall bake your bread in one oven, and they shall deliver [you] your bread again by weight: and ye shall eat, and not be satisfied.
27 And if ye will not for all this hearken unto me, but walk contrary unto me;
28 Then I will walk contrary unto you also in fury; and I, even I, will chastise you seven times for your sins.
29 And ye shall eat the flesh of your sons, and the flesh of your daughters shall ye eat.
30 And I will destroy your high places, and cut down your images, and cast your carcasses upon the carcasses of your idols, and my soul shall abhor you.
31 And I will make your cities waste, and bring your sanctuaries unto desolation, and I will not smell the savour of your sweet odours.
32 And I will bring the land into desolation: and your enemies which dwell therein shall be astonished at it.
33 And I will scatter you among the heathen, and will draw out a sword after you: and your land shall be desolate, and your cities waste.
34 Then shall the land enjoy her Sabbaths, as long as it lieth desolate, and ye [be] in your enemies' land; [even] then shall the land rest, and enjoy her Sabbaths.
35 As long as it lieth desolate it shall rest; because it did not rest in your Sabbaths, when ye dwelt upon it.
36 And upon them that are left [alive] of you I will send a faintness into their hearts in the lands of their enemies; and the sound of a shaken leaf shall chase them; and they shall flee, as fleeing from a sword; and they shall fall when none pursueth.
37 And they shall fall one upon another, as it were before a sword, when none pursueth: and ye shall have no power to stand before your enemies.
38 And ye shall perish among the heathen, and the land of your enemies shall eat you up.
39 And they that are left of you shall pine away in their iniquity in your enemies' lands; and also in the iniquities of their fathers shall they pine away with them.


 

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